In-Laws Moving Too Close

Dear Dr. Dave and Dr. Dee,

I've lost about 20 pounds, which was my goal. But, my stomach area is still flabby. I do stomach crunches, so what more can I do?

Dear Dr. Dave and Dr. Dee,

My husband's parents visit us every summer from out of state. But, this last summer, they decided to buy a condo a few blocks from our home. They told us they wanted to be near their grandchildren and watch them grow up. My father-in-law is controlling and my mother-in-law is overbearing. Our children are 6 and 9 years old, but act like undisciplined brats when the in-laws are in town because they spoil them with candy and toys, and encourage our kids to ignore the rules and go against me.

I feel like I am the only one in the family who tries to enforce rules when they are around. So, I'm the mean mommy because I don't let them eat junk and stay up late every night watching TV.

Putting up with the in-laws for a week is one thing, but now we must deal with them on a daily basis. Also, my in-laws are the type to just drop by unexpectedly. My husband is concerned about their close proximity as well.

Signed,

Any advice?

Dear Any advice,

You and your husband need to present a united front. Limiting their presence must be established early on. Your husband needs to nicely let his parents know that you have a routine, and visits need to be scheduled in advance. If you're busy, screen your phone calls, and do not answer the door if not expecting company. Be cordial, but do not be available.

Although you may not be able to curtail your in-laws giving the kids candy, keep explaining to your children why you have rules about too much candy and staying up late. Tell them you love them and care about their health. Too much candy and not enough sleep hurts their bodies and minds. You want them to grow up strong and healthy.