Infidelity - Husband's Problem

Dear Dr. Dave and Dr. Dee,

I was "the other woman" for whom "Jack" left his wife. I was younger, prettier, smarter than his former wife. Now, I'm in the position of being the betrayed wife. I just found out Jack is having an affair with his coworker. It's not the first time he's betrayed me in our 10 year marriage. There have been a couple of other affairs that I found out about, but he ended them as soon as I confronted him. I have done everything for him, tried to be the perfect wife, changed my hair color to please him, dress the way he likes, cook great dinners, keep the house nice, and do all the activities that he likes to do. I'm at my wits end. What more can I do? What am I doing wrong?

Signed,

Betrayed

Dear Betrayed,

You are not the problem, your husband is the problem. You have changed yourself to please him, but nothing you do will change his infidelity problem. No matter how "perfect" you are, he will still have this addiction. Both of you need to seek joint and separate counseling. You need to have more self-esteem, figure out why you stay with such an untrustworthy person, and decide if the marriage is worth holding onto.