Overcoming Grief During the Holidays

Dear Dr. Dave & Dr. Dee,

My husband died three years ago after being married 47 years. As the holiday season approaches, I'm feeling depressed again as if he just died yesterday. I don't want to burden my son and daughter with my problems. Is there something I should be doing to get over my sadness? Will I ever get over this?

Signed,

Thanks for any help

Dear Thanks for any help,

The loss of a loved one is always difficult, and more so during the holidays and other special occasions. You will always miss your beloved husband and while the sadness will always be there, there are a few things you can do to help alleviate it:

1. Take care of yourself: eat healthy, go for a walk, get rested, and get enough sleep.

2. Keep in touch with family and friends: visit, phone, or write. Express your feelings.

3. Let your family and friends know what you need: accept their help.

4. Keep photos displayed of your loved one: putting photos away won't shut out the sadness.

5. Do something for others in need: volunteer in the community or give to charity.

6. Participate in activities: go shopping, on group tours with other seniors; see a movie; go out to dinner.

7. Change or continue with your traditions. Some people feel better doing things differently, but others are comforted by traditions. Only you can decide what is best for you.

8. See a grief counselor in your area: join a support group.