I couldn't help but comment after reading two articles you posted under your Families and Relationships column. I was in a marriage for 20 years and lost it all to a wife who had affair after affair after affair. It really annoys me to see articles that always give advice to women about cheating men! Did anyone ever stop to realize that women play men just as bad, if not worse? I learned this all too well first hand and believe me this will not happen again. I probably could write my own book on telltale signs that women give when cavorting around behind men's backs. If it's been done enough times, all women seem to use the same routine and it becomes funny in a pathetic way after you've seen it over and over. Women may be different, but the practice of infidelity is all the same, and it's about time more advice is given from the other sides prospective.
Signed,
Nobody's Fool!
Dear Nobody's Fool,
Thank you for your comments from personal experience. Please note that we publish letters from folks who write to us, and it appears that more women write about their cheating husbands or boyfriends.
Infidelity isn't as common as one would think given the cheating scandals by male celebrities such as Tiger Woods, Ashton Kutcher, Kobe Bryant, Jesse James, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and Mel Gibson or female celebrities such as Elizabeth Taylor, LeAnn Rimes, and Jennifer Lopez. According to the General Social Survey from NORC (National Opinion Research Center) at the University of Chicago, 22 percent of married men and 15 percent of married women have cheated at least once. (http://www3.norc.org/gss+website/)
The reasons for spouses cheating also differ. Men can be happy in a marriage and cheat for sexual excitement, whereas women tend to be unhappy in the marriage and cheat for an emotional connection. (http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/INFIDELITY.pdf)